Another glass of wine?

My girlfriends and I went to the new hot spot burger joint in Studio City. We like to meet up for a little happy hour on Friday evenings so we can attempt to drink the work week away. I've reached the age where having single girlfriends are few and far between, so holding onto them for dear life is the only option.
Once seated, the waiter came by and took our drink order. He was somewhat cute, funny (which to me makes men hotter) but I wasn't sure if it was the beer making him cute, or nature. The fact that he is a waiter was a bit of a turn off, not because he's a waiter but because in LA if you're a waiter you're actually an actor. And I have a rule against dating actors. I have been through many in my dating career (yup career) and decided last year that that was it for me-no more actors. But if you live in Los Angeles, you know that this is a almost impossible feat.
As the drinks flowed, our actor, I mean waiter started to look better and better. So with a little encouragement from my lady friends and the beer I decided to leave him my number. A move I have not even thought of in my 30's.

By the next day waiter had called, and with a few short, nice phone convos we decided to go out to dinner. He had chosen a quaint place by my apartment and told me what time to meet him. So far so good, I like when the man takes charge. There's nothing worse than a guy asking you out and then saying "so what do you want to do?" Hello, you asked me out, you figure it out. Our generation of men are what I consider "lazy" and think they don't have to place any kind of effort into wooing women but that's a whole other blog.

I met waiter at a local restaurant I have never been to, which is always a good choice. Sit down for dinner, I order a glass of wine and he orders water. Hello red flag, so nice to see you again.
We have small talk about what I do for work and what he does for work (besides being a waiter/actor there wasn't much there). He continues to talk about all the "projects" he has going on and how being a waiter is temporary. With my second glass of wine I realize that I have had the same conversation many times before on first dates. Different Men (actors) with all the same conversations. Half way into my second glass of wine he says to me "so would you like to know why I'm only drinking water?" I think to myself "oh brother, here we go. I'll need order another glass of wine for this conversation" I politely say "yes, I was wondering about that" He proceeds to inform me that he is "sober" and all the reasons he has decided to stop drinking. Which I can totally respect. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying you have to drink to have a good time. I do, but I do know alot of people who don't need it and that is fine by me. I was hoping this would be his explanation and maybe he just didn't like it. I mean crap, I didn't start drinking until I was 31. But as I had suspected (starting with the Jesus talk) he had a huge drinking problem, had a great acting career, wasted his money, was super cocky about life and when he lost everything decided to stop drinking. Still this would all be OK with me, until he decided to answer my question of when this happened with "5 months ago"!!!! With that I downed the rest of my third glass of wine, looked at my phone and said "this was nice, but Grey's Anatomy is on and I have to go"

That was it, never heard from him again, maybe he got the clue when I left our date after an hour and a half for Patrick Dempsey.

With that I am back to the rule of not dating actors unless of course James Franco comes knocking down my door.